After delivering a baby, the last thing you are thinking about is sex. You are tired, sore, and recovering. Then the times comes that you feel you are ready but don’t know where to get started.
A lot of people find the conversation of sex to be taboo and uncomfortable to talk about.
Personally, I had no idea that it was going to be much different than pre-baby sex, but it is; not in a bad way, just different. The first few times were uncomfortable and slightly painful after my first baby. When I found out I was pregnant with my second child I started asking my friends that already had children and not many women had suggestions. They just stuck with the pain until it went away. That made me want to research a few things. After all the research and suggestions, I found:
- PLAN! PLAN! PLAN! This is the start of the entire post-baby sex experience. Plan ahead so you can make the experience as pleasant as possible. Sex will be a new experience. You both will get to explore your new body.
- SLOW THINGS DOWN! Before baby you could be rough but the first few times will need to be slow and gentle. Foreplay will be a must! Often times it becomes more difficult to have natural lubricant after baby.
- LUBRICANT. The best thing that you can do is to find a great water based lubricant. Applying this will help make it an easier process. It can help make it more comfortable for foreplay and sex.
- PAIN. There will be some pain but the amount you experience will depend on how you cope with pain. Some woman experiences no pain and others find it unbearable during sex.
- BOOBS. Our boobs become engorged after birth and may hurt. If you are breastfeeding they can be sore and raw. This means no squeezing without permission from your partner. Discuss what she may be comfortable with. They are not your water guns! Be gentle.
Congratulations on your new baby and enjoy your new body! There are so many changes that happen during pregnancy and after birth. Slow things down and love the new you!